I do not have experience with on-line dating
Perhaps my morals are skewed, but I don't think an age difference of two years is a "fundamental detail." Seriously, what is the difference between 32 & 34 y/o woman that a man in his thirties wouldn't even dream of crossing that number?
I also think the stay hopeful, wish upon a star way of viewing things leaves too much to chance in a dating world that skews heavily against women as they age
What no regrets, coyote mentioned is a good compromise. Change the age in the filtering section, but leave a quick blurb somewhere in your profile explaining the truth. posted by elleyebeebeewhy at 9:10 PM on [2 favorites]
Response by poster: I was totally against this until I read this article that made clear how much of a difference age makes, and how irrelevant it can be to the actual physical attractiveness of the woman in question. On average dudes are apparently shallow and shitty about age.
On the one hand, you don't want any guy who is shallow and shitty about age. On the other hand, there are a lot of guys who pick their age ranges based on these arbitrary standards influenced by society without considering whether it's reasonable, and it's possible once actually on a few dates they would not care. Personally, I don't think a couple of years is that big a deal--it's not like you're taking off a decade. I think the only guy who would give a huge crap about a couple years is either someone really over-invested in fertility, or is way too serious about the reliability of information in an online dating profile and believes the information provided should be the equivalent of sworn testimony in court. You probably don't want either of these people. posted by Anonymous at 9:17 PM on
Isn't this one of those little white lies that's not really hurting anyone?